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Aging ranks swell with lickers and runners

In Uncategorized on January 29, 2013 at 11:41 pm
Ageing

Ageing (Photo credit: pierre pouliquin)

I needed to bring a treat with me outdoors tonight to get Chelsea to do her final business of the day in the backyard, before retiring for the evening. It was a very warm day here today and so it was still very pleasant while we had our last outdoors time together this evening.

We had enjoyed a walk earlier in the day, which was equally as pleasant. What’s not to love about 60 degree days in January?

They used to say the best kept secret in Colorado was January. But January in Kentucky is pretty nice, too.

With old dogs, like some people, it’s pretty simple: give them a reason to do even the most basic of bodily functions, such as a treat, and they are all about the urination now so dad won’t have to let you out at 1 a.m., because he let you sleep straight through.

With all the Lance Armstrong hoopla recently and while I live and play with an elderly poochie, I wonder if given the choice to improve how you feel, instead of how well you perform in competitive, professional sports, would you take a little something extra in order to do so?

Being in a running club also makes me think about performance enhancing drugs. My mind, much like Chelsea’s, continually makes deals with the body that the body really wants no part of.

“You can DO this seven mile run, brother! Yes you can!”

Well, yes, I can. But for the next few days afterwards my creaky hip serves up reminders that I’m among the oldest runners in the group.

That is the thing with aging. For me, the most annoying part of it is my vision, or should I say, the deteriorating lack of it. In Chelsea’s case, it is her hearing (although sometimes it appears selective, but seriously, it is going out on her).

Are the aches and pains, the deterioration and erosion of the body’s fluidity of motion, the longer recovery times necessary after periods of excess indulgence or exertion, the wandering around aimlessly trying to remember what body part needs licking the next time I lay down (oh sorry, Chels), all an absolute part of the aging process?

Chelsea, like a lot of dogs is an obsessive licker. She’ll lick until she’s snorting exhalations like an older man running further than he should.

Since my sweetie has been gone on business, Chels and I have been doing some renewed bonding. Her back legs have weakened over time and they occasionally go out on her. Depending on how tired she is, she will wait until either Rhonda or I give her a boost back up and she’s trotting off merrily on her way.

Chelsea fans at a match against Tottenham Hots...

Chelsea fans at a match against Tottenham Hotspur, on 11 March 2006 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Depending on how tired I am, I pace myself and map out the amount of work that needs doing in any given chunk of time. Sometimes, unhealthily enough, I will engage in what an old friend once referred to as “fatigue eating.” Fatigue eating is my version of licking.

In fact, Chelsea will engage in some of her most fast and furious licking just prior to settling in to a full-bore snore.

I’ve done all of my homework and have to throw the upstairs bedding (Chels and I are hanging in the downstairs bedroom—she has her bed in here and will wake me up in the a.m. for wee wee and feeding like a good doggie alarm clock) in the dryer before crashing.

But not before doing my business one last time, sans treat of course.

Goodnight all you fellow gracefully aging people.

Apple only knows new now

In Uncategorized on January 24, 2013 at 11:35 pm
English: The logo for Apple Computer, now Appl...

English: The logo for Apple Computer, now Apple Inc.. The design of the logo started in 1977 designed by Rob Janoff with the rainbow color theme used until 1999 when Apple stopped using the rainbow color theme and used a few different color themes for the same design. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Once upon a time there was an Apple Computer that used to innovate, generate excitement and create thrills and chills during new product announcements.

Apple still releases new products, but only investor chills remain; the thrills have left the building.

Apple has been running hard towards a wall since it dropped the “Computer” at the end of Apple.

When they decided to become a consumer electronics company—abandoning development of OS X as it was, before it was determined that Macs should work like iPhones and iPads and all things App, they gave up being competitive in the computer hardware department for all intents and purposes.

The last good release of OS X was Snow Leopard. Lion was/is Apple’s Vista. Mountain Lion eclipsed Vista, err, Lion, but nobody cares. The world’s business is run on Windows and Linux servers, not Apple’s. The company that used to advertise fiercely how much better a Mac was than a PC, only is slightly competitive when it comes to small and intermediate-sized business computing environments. This was all OK by Apple until recently when it saw its smart phone market share numbers plummet—something many savvy investors have seen coming for quite some time.

Apple stockholders cheered when the original iPhone was released back in the day. The crowd went wild with giddy anticipation of what their stock portfolios would one day soon look like.

The problem for Apple is what the problem was for Microsoft and what the problem was for Sony, too. When you are on tight, new product release schedules that create pressure internally for sales numbers to be white-hot out of the gate, you are bound to get tackled for a huge loss behind the line of scrimmage. That is because although business environments may change their hardware and OS every three years, consumers are not, at least, anymore.

There are no compelling, must-have features on any iPhone being released. Plus, anyone who wants an iPhone already has one. Apple is reeling from intense, Android competition. Double plus, folks have finally gotten hip to paying the Apple premium for any Apple gadget—iPhone, iPad, iMac (yes, it’s a gadget, too) or iPod. That is, they have come to the realization that it just is not worth it to pay a premium for any device because it says “Apple” on it, anymore.

People want value. Apple used to be about value, but with their abandonment of serious computer operating systems in favor of mobile systems development, it finally is demonstrated how poor an experience can be on a Mac running either Lion or Mountain Lion, when one uses the gadget formerly known as an iMac. I grant you, the iMac screen is beautiful, but when that lovely video display goes out on that gadget, that screen is gone to the shop along with the rest of the computer. This is because that pretty thing is an all-in-one gadget. Call the towers of yesterday ugly if you must, but just plug in another monitor to Mr. Ugly Tower and you are back up and running—same day—just plug… and play!

English: Apple iPad Event

English: Apple iPad Event (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Have no fear, there will be more new iPhones, new iMacs (without optical drives, mind you!), new iPads, new iPods and new iStuff (I stuff it all under the “didn’t have to be this way but it is” category). When you climb to the top of the heap as fast as Apple has, it is easy to predict their quality of user experience has nowhere to go but down.

If all you need is your iPhone or iPad you didn’t make it this far reading. But since you did, I know every so often you actually need to use a computer to get some work done.

Sadly, it used to be exclusively Apple computers for me, but there is no value to be had in paying extra for things like external optical drives when they should still be included in the actual computer—making me pay for an external drive does not save me money.

The Cloud just isn’t as smooth and fluffy as they’d like you to believe yet.

 

We do it to ourselves

In Uncategorized on January 20, 2013 at 10:23 am
Automobile

Automobile (Photo credit: A*A*R*O*N)

Athletes who smoked, chewed, drank and did drugs from the 30s through the 60s–before science came up with what it has regarding how bad these things are for you, did so anyway, and without giving it a second thought in most instances.

Sometimes you hear, “If I live to be 80, I’m going to do whatever the heck I feel like doing.”

Isn’t that what anyone does in a free country, no matter their age?

We ignore negative consequences for our poor behavior every day.

What happens when we suddenly are told we have a really bad disease (that has resulted from unhealthy habits over a long period of time) and there is little to nothing that can be done about it?

Do we worry about it or do we do just like we did when we were chewing tobacco and not worry about it—remain oblivious to positive behavior modification and continue bad habits?

Life is funny sometimes.

We each have defining moments that are sometimes clearer than others when they are happening.

Sometimes it is the realization that we will pay dearly for something we did earlier in life and this becomes our legacy. We are remembered not so much for what we accomplished but for how much we suffered while dealing with something that was killing us.

Cancer research is big business for pharmaceutical companies and the citizenry that own stock in them. These companies are largely responsible for the great gains on paper that our 401ks have enjoyed the past four years.

We are pleased with our 401k statuses and are disgusted simultaneously, with the fact we have not found a cure for cancer.

“Let’s hope we find a cure for cancer in our lifetime.”

I recently heard that it is not in the best interest of pharmaceutical companies that there ever is a cure for cancer. I understand cancer research is big profit for these companies and also responsible for significant gains in our stock portfolios.

But, as a more giving, than a taking person, I am saddened that anyone, anybody or any organization could sincerely allow people are dying in the name of profit and will continue to do so as long as the United States is the world’s superpower and controls the shots, so to speak.

Does anybody really accept this? I suppose some of us do.

Another example of big business controlling the greater good that could be possible is the automobile industry. We are still using the gasoline-powered engine; it is early 20th century technology.

gasoline

gasoline (Photo credit: Il Primo Uomo)

But oil, much like cancer research for big pharmaceutical companies, means big money and profit for countries with a vested interest in oil continuing to be the way we fuel ourselves.

It is not in the best interest of oil companies for the gasoline-powered automobile engine to go away anytime soon. We will have self-driving cars and electronic dashboards with choices for beard trimming and make-up application while driving, before the gasoline-powered engine is ever fully abandoned.

I suggest we already have much of the technology to combat our greatest diseases and illnesses, just like we already have the ability to drive cars that run on something other than gasoline (don’t talk to me about expensive, high maintenance and inconvenient solar-powered vehicles, either).

The problem remains our mindset. Most of us chase a buck all day and night long. If we are fortunate enough to not go to bed hungry, we should be smart enough to change our priorities.

If something is bad for you, are you going to keep doing it anyway because you will have more money in the long run while not having as high a quality of life while doing so?

The athletes of the 30s through the 60s (without benefit of science) knew the negative substances they were ingesting were bad for them. Their bodies filled with garbage as they ignored their self-decay.

We know better today as science tells us what’s bad for us.

Why do we still do it anyway? Is this just how it is? How long are we content to let greed control all?

 

Friends sew laughter into healthy life fabric

In Uncategorized on January 17, 2013 at 7:06 pm
Friendship 7

Friendship 7 (Photo credit: NASA on The Commons)

Sew you had a hard day.

I mean, soo you had a difficult time during sunshine hours.

Who do you turn to?

Where do you go?

Where everybody knows your lame? I mean, name?

Hardly.

What you need is a friend.

You’ve got a friend.

Hate the James Taylor song, love the sentiment.

If

You’ve got a friend, you have a lot.

A friend can pick you up in the worst of situations that you may be experiencing.

As a guy, I have never had a huge number of friends that were guys.

I have had a lot of friends that are women (and still are for that matter).

Women seem to have a lot of friends that are both guys and girls.

They even have girlfriends they have known since grade school.

Guys typically do not.

Generally-speaking, guys would rather lie on the couch with a beer, a bag of Doritos and ESPN blaring on the tube.

Nacho Cheesier flavor Doritos

Nacho Cheesier flavor Doritos (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Guys don’t do interaction with other guy friends.

They are islands unto themselves.

Women know the value and health benefits of networking and maintaining social circles of good friends and acquaintances, much more so than guys do.

How do I know this?

I just do.

You thought I was going to cite studies that back up my assertions, didn’t you.

Fooled ya!

Here at hittingthesweetspot by Bob Skelley we serve no studies until it’s time.

That is, we just don’t serve them at all.

For is a blog a blog with studies in it? Or is it just a blog that contains studies?

I suggest it is not a blog if there are studies. Studies are boring. Just talking about them the little I just did makes me want to find a link and click out of this story.

But if I do that, you will miss something important as we are through discussing studies and now return you to our regularly scheduled blog posting.

Women should be ruling the world.

They are much better adjusted emotionally than men, generally-speaking.

Men hold everything in, their arteries harden and they die.

Women emote, have a regular series of health issues they address in a timely fashion, and live better, longer lives than men.

I have seen women crying when they are disappointed in themselves.

Men wait to cry until they are alone. Then when they do, they question why they are crying.

“Should I see a shrink? I’m crying here alone in the dark for Cripes sake!”

They miss the whole therapeutic point of crying in the first place by doing so.

Cry and move on.

Move on and cry.

Then cry and move on again.

In a way, women are already ruling the world.

They are holding more positions of power and authority than they used to.

These are positions that traditionally have been men’s country.

Now, it is women in board rooms who are the players and power brokers.

This has seemingly happened overnight and in a way it has.

Men’s advancement has been stunted by not knowing how to live and be men anymore.

They want a 21st century rule book for how to play the game.

Women know the secret to success, always have.

They practice it every day they live.

Friends

Friends (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Men can’t wait to get home and plop on the couch.

In the old days, it was with a newspaper.

Now it’s just with TV or video games.

Women meet up with friends.

That’s right.

That’s all it is.

They even, shhhh, talk with friends.

We hear them laughing with their friends on the phone.

We are a little envious of their lives and all their great friends who share good laughs with them.

Guys…life is just better with friends.

You’ll laugh more if you have them.

You’ll live healthy longer laughing with them.

Come get ya some.

The process of satisfaction

In Uncategorized on January 13, 2013 at 9:58 pm
Manning and his teammates in a game against th...

Manning and his teammates in a game against the Jacksonville Jaguars. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

After leading a season in which his new team saw a return to relevance by taking several turns on the national stage during the regular season, Peyton Manning’s Denver Broncos were exposed as nothing more than an attempt to buy something another team that developed from within, were more deserving of.

My father used to refer to the Yankees and their annual attempts at “buying the pennant,” when I was a kid growing up in New York. I used to silently stew while dad was enjoying a good run of fortune with his N.Y. Mets (his adopted team after the Giants moved to San Francisco) in 1969, as all throughout the sixties, well, specifically after 1964 and through 1975, the Yankees endured one of their lousiest stretches ever.

George Steinbrenner bought a Yankees franchise in decay in 1973 and immediately went about the process of restoring this once great team to its former, seemingly perpetual and annual, runs to pennant glory.

Steinbrenner was not at all about patience and began spending lavishly on free agents as soon as he could. Although the team made the World Series in 1976, they were embarrassingly swept by the Cincinnati Reds in that Fall Classic. But the tone was set. Steinbrenner, each and every year thereafter, was not about to lose a pennant, let alone a world series ever again, for lack of spending, I mean, trying.

Go big or go home.

It is the American way.

Yet sports are a great equalizer and sensei to this way of doing business.

English: George Steinbrenner's life, work clip...

English: George Steinbrenner’s life, work clip courtesy New York Yankees & Major League Baseball MLB.com looks at George Steinbrenner’s life and work, work released into the public domain by the author, per http://www.archive.org/details/GeorgeSteinbrenner1930-2010 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Each and every year the Yankees assemble the best team money can buy. They gladly pay out luxury tax to small market teams as the price of having a payroll that exceeds the Collective Bargaining Agreement threshold—all in the name of putting the best possible product on the field for its fans.

Money buys a lot of things, a lot of material stuff, many items we can put our fingers on. But money does not have the power to assure the outcome of either baseball or football or basketball or any team sports’ seasons. The fact is that while money can purchase the best players available, the games still have to be played on the fields and courts.

What happens within the confines of team environments—whether on the playing field or around the water cooler, is what determines who wins.

We have leaders and followers. We have those in search of individual accolades who are in contract years and playing for one last big payday to be signed off on during the off season.

In the case of the Denver Broncos, they failed to do their homework.

I am not speaking of the infamous four Manning neck surgeries and what he might or might not have had left in the tank, when they were in the process of making him an offer he could not refuse.

Their arrogance at selling both Manning and their fan base on a dream that could not ever be realized was only outdistanced by the depth of the disappointment they experienced Saturday evening.

In Peyton’s Place Won’t Be Here I touched upon the fact that aging, high-priced veteran quarterbacks on their second teams rarely enjoy any success beyond the age of 35.

super bowl

super bowl (Photo credit: sinosplice)

I know that while a Viking, Brett Favre was one errant pass away from another Super Bowl appearance. Peyton Manning had a great comeback regular season this year, too.

But now that we understand it is fact that professional athletes are physically in decline after 35 and great QBs never are as great after leaving their long-time teams for someplace new, we still want to see Peyton make another run next year.

Sadly, it will not be nearly as pretty as this year was up until Saturday.

But Denver’s John Elway will privately take solace in the fact the team made the playoffs again—having had the stones to take a flyer on a first ballot Hall of Famer having another Super Bowl run in him.

Money brought Peyton here, but players drafted and developed into a veteran team that played together when it mattered most at crunch time sent him home.

Nothing else right when relationships wrong

In Uncategorized on January 6, 2013 at 10:19 pm

Tunnel of Love

The one constant in business is cultivating and more importantly, nurturing, the relationships we have with our customers.

How do we get better at building relationships?

It begins at home my friends.

If the relationships in your personal life are going well, that frees you to make the business side of relationships in your company work for both you and your customers’ benefit.

It is no coincidence that when our personal lives are suffering in some fashion, we may be finding it difficult to keep our proverbial heads above water on the professional side.

Life is so busy for me these days that I find the time constraints of both education and work to be all-consuming to the point of not being able to enjoy enough face time with all of the new people I am meeting both on the job, in school (yes, I have just started taking classes again—more to come on this as time goes by) and at play (in a running club).

Even my love of blogging will need to be tempered accordingly.

Why oh why must I not blog as often as I would like?

Because with all that is going on, I do not want my personal relationships to suffer. They are a priority and specifically speaking, my relationship with my significant other gets the most attention (and deservedly so).

I was hanging out with a bunch of friends the other night and at one point during the course of buffalo-wing fueled conversation, observed, “Everything else going on in my life is garbage (didn’t quite use that word, but hey, this is a PG-rated blog) if my relationship is not right.”

English: THREE GRACIAS, bronze, cire perdue,20...

English: THREE GRACIAS, bronze, cire perdue,2000, 40 x 34 x 42cm, 35 x 28 x 39cm, 35 x 30 x 37cm, granite base, welded steel pedestals The idea is to show our personal relationship with computers, including sexual attraction, sort of latest antropomorphication of hardware (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Think about it.

I did not mean for it to be profound, and perhaps no one took it as such, but to me, it most certainly was.

You say I am a legend in my own mind?

Indeed, that was a phase earlier in life, no doubt.

But you seriously cannot maintain success juggling life, work, school and play while your relationship is going down in flames.

We are happiest when we are in harmony with our girlfriends, boyfriends and spouses. Our significant others are our greatest allies. If not, we are with the wrong person.

Our significant others give us the benefit of the doubt when what you are sharing with one another is true and honest.

Even if you are not enjoying business success while your personal relationship is going well, you are still benefiting in all areas of your life by enjoying a healthy relationship.

At the least, you are able to better tolerate the lows the business world occasionally provides to us all.

As I look into the immediate future I see it has been more than three days since my last posting. And that saddens me because since this blog debuted mid-April of last year, I have averaged a post every three days.

The frequency of posting may not be as great as I would like going forward.

Relationship

Relationship (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

But this will be temporary. At some point I will surely have time to be able to get out a few more posts with my usual regularity, and so will refrain from stating in the “About” link at the top here that I will be going to a once a week format.

In the juggling act that life is now for me again, this life balance thing can be tricky if your priorities are not straight.

My personal relationship will always be my first priority in life.

Whatever else comes after that in terms of importance will probably ever be changing, but so long as I am in step with my significant other, my support system, my greatest ally, success is already mine now and hereafter.

 

2013 will be exactly what you intend

In Uncategorized on January 1, 2013 at 10:21 am
English: Fabric Hindu calendar/almanac corresp...

English: Fabric Hindu calendar/almanac corresponding to Western years 1871-1872. From Rajasthan in India. The left column shows the ten avatars of Vishnu, the center-right column shows the twelve signs of the Hindu zodiac. Top middle panel shows Ganesha with two consorts. The second panel shows Krishna with two consorts. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I am using a different kind of calendar than I am used to, in 2013. It is one where the first day of the week is Monday and the last is Sunday. Is this the European format? I do not know and after briefly Googling, still do not know, nor do I care.

The different format calendar may be a metaphor for how I will approach this New Year. How we want it to go, what our intentions are, how realistic our expectations may be—all the newness and excitement of things to come as of this day, Jan. 1, 2013, are represented to me, at least initially, by the new format calendar. I am starting out the New Year differently by changing how I view time and its passage.

The fiscal cliff is unfortunately the biggest distraction as we begin the New Year. They (you know who) will reach agreement to avert “disaster” and will pose for newly created photo opportunities with beaming faces and arms around each other like kids who say, “Look, Mommy, I vacuumed today! Can I have another biscuit? I am worth your adoration.”

Another thing that is distracting is soothsayers who predict more of the same bad stuff that occurred in 2012 but only worse, in 2013.

As many of you who spend some time here understand, I am a former Predictor and although I have been known to display my command of the obvious by making easy predictions, I am not going there regarding bad predictions for 2013; it is easy to say bad stuff will happen in 2013. Duh!

Fear mongers, I hear what you are trying to sell me, but I am not buying it. Actually, I am buying less overall, truth be told—partly out of necessity and also out of how I manage things like expenses these days. My perceptions of the world are not drawn from imagery and words mass media provide. The intelligent person culls information from a variety of sources, so as to understand the digital age is to acknowledge news reporting bias is everywhere.

Nothing (whether the media is portraying something they are outraged about) is ever as it seems. Again, the intelligent person gets this and reserves judgment until after all the facts are in.

So what happened when you woke up today?

Did you make mention of Jan. 1, 2013 out loud like I did?

I am probably pretty much against the grain of the majority in this country when I say I am fortunate enough to be growing more hopeful with the passage of time. Good intentions and hope create the seeds of positive change.

What are you doing and thinking of doing?

Do you intend to do good, bad or indifferent things with your life?

As I have been writing this I was thinking back to whether or not I had previously attempted to utilize the European (is that what it is?) format calendar. I may have, and if I did, it was a short-lived experiment.

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year! (Photo credit: Rinoninha)

I intend to get more mileage out of it this time. I will be teaching myself to look forward to Mondays a little more.

Yes, I admit when I was not in such good places in life I disliked Mondays like a lot of you.

I do not know if I can ever like Mondays completely or look forward to their arrival with consistent gusto.

But I intend to do a better job of rolling with them this year.

With my old calendars, Friday and Saturday were at the end of the week and Sunday, awkwardly enough, was at the beginning.

On my 2013 calendar Saturday and Sunday are at the end of the week. Monday is at the beginning; makes more sense and also makes the coming ones more palatable when you view them like this:

“Mondays are new beginnings.”

This New Year is already working for me.

Happy New Year!

 

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